Carns describes how her friend and her arre harassed throughout weekend by men. What I found interesting is that she refers to it not feeling like a "safe space for women". She mentions things I’ve experienced countless times, almost every time I go out in the world. And Crypticon Seattle stepped up to the plate! They almost immediately posted a new Code of Conduct on their website.
I was most taken back by Carns’ post because I'm just not used to feeling safe as a woman. I was like .... Wait. It's possible to make it safe for us?! Her words are actually causing people to make positive changes? I am so inspired by this.
Every time my girlfriends and I go out dancing it’s a constant battle to keep the creeps away. Last weekend we ended up dancing behind a roped-off area, to get some peace of mind. I can recall a night out a few months ago where one man in particular kept trying to dance with us- over and over and over- no matter how many times we said “no” and/or moved away. He, then, stopped and starred at us down for a super long awkward time, trying to intimidate and threaten us. It was scary….scary that this behavior isn’t uncommon. I have often experienced a hostile reaction when turning down a man who wanted to dance or get my phone number.
We make jokes about it because I think we don't know what else to do. But it's not funny. And Anthea Carns has proven that you can change it if you speak up!